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Shoulds and Shouldn'ts



One way you can start to play around with your thoughts is take a look at what your brain is saying
SHOULD or SHOULDN'T happen and flip it and see what your brain can come up with.  I'll give you an
example:

The dog didn't get walked today and when he doesn't get walked he has tons of energy and barks a lot,
chews things, and digs in the yard. You may be thinking thoughts like:

"My husband should walk the dog."
"The dog shouldn't chew on dirty diapers."
"The dog shouldn't be so loud."
"I shouldn't have to deal with this."

Then later when you're pondering the situation and these thoughts, flip it around on your brain and try thinking:

"In what way should the dog chew on dirty diapers?" (possible answers: "When dogs are restless and have access to dirty diapers they chew on them.")
"In what way shouldn't my husband walk the dog?" (possible answers: "He's been working long hours.")
"In what way should the dog be so loud?" (possible answers: "When dogs are restless, they bark.")
"In what way should I have to deal with this?" (possible answers: "I'm the one home with the dog for most of the day. So even though the plan is for my husband to walk the dog, I understand that sometimes it will need to be me.")

Doing this exercise forces you to analyze the situation from your higher brain. You will find that once you are using your higher brain that you will realize that this is exactly what you would expect the dog to do in this moment.

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