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Not Good Enough


Sometimes my clients let me know that they are struggling with "not good enough" feelings.

Together we work on believing that "if it happens it was meant to happen and that I am going to be
amazing" and that is all so great.  We run models on what the "not good enough" thoughts create for
them and then what the "I'm amazing" thoughts create for them.

Sometimes they need a bridge thought to help them get from the "not good enough" thoughts to believing
the "I'm amazing" thoughts, they might try one of these:

"I'm going to be the mom/wife/friend/sister/daughter I've decided to be." 
"I'm going to be a human mom/wife/friend/sister/daughter."
"I'm going to do my best."
"I'm going to accept all parts of me, the good and the bad."

Being human is amazing and incredibly challenging and it involves forgiving ourselves every day and
trying again. Working, growing, changing.

So, if they choose that first bridge thought : I'm going to be the mom/wife/friend/sister/daughter I've
decided to be..." that looks like deciding ahead of time that they will do great part of the time and mess
up part of the time and the person they want to be forgives themself when they messes up and knows
that they will decide to keep working and trying every time.  Deciding ahead of time the person they want
to be is so much more productive and realistic than setting up the expectation of being an incredible
person all of the time.

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