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Hurt So Good

I've been having some thoughts about something a client said this morning at the beginning of our
session. She said that she is spending a lot of effort being positive and it seems to be having the
opposite effect.  Right now she feels like things are worse than before she started working on all of this.
I reassured her that unfortunately she was right on track.

My first thought is that I actually don't see it that way at all, I think she is learning and growing so much. 

I reminded her that we are so hard on ourselves and it is also very difficult to measure small subtle
changes over time. We have been working together for months and I believe that she has come so far!

I then encouraged her to go back and listen to our first calls and look over her notes and my notes to
just remind herself of where she started. 

My second thought is that her brain may be offering her a bit of a lie because it wants her to stop.
Her life wasn't working for her before, she didn't like how she felt, and she was ready to make some
changes. Things are still not great, but they weren't much better before.

Change is hard, it takes time, and is usually uncomfortable.  She is seriously right on track and I know
that it can be discouraging. But I also know we can find thoughts about this hard part that will give her
hope and help her keep fighting for creating the life she wants to create.

I thought of this podcast episode that may help, so I sent it to her. Jody Moore calls this part that she's
in the River of Misery.  


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