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Unnecessary Survival Mode

I was listening to a podcast from Brooke Castillo and she was talking about not drinking alcohol anymore (which she does not do for moral reasons, just personal preference).  She said she never lied to her brain and said that alcohol was evil and bad and she hated it, she openly acknowledged that drinking is fun, but I prefer not drinking and here's why...  I thought that was a really powerful way for her to put it because we don't need to hate something to stop doing it or beat ourselves up in order to change.  We're also not trying to lie to or trick our lower brain which never goes well.

The areas I'm working on are represented by sentences that I practice thinking when my lower brain is resisting this process:

-Survival mode can be helpful, but we're not meant to stay there.
-Sleeping in is fun, but I prefer to get up early.
-Staying in PJ's all day is comfy and easy, but I prefer to be dressed and look my best.
-Not wearing makeup is fast and easy, but I prefer to wear makeup.
-Eating whatever I want whenever I want is fun, but I prefer to follow my protocol.
-Never exercising is easy, but I prefer to be fit and healthy.
-Eating white sugar and white flour (or junk food) is delicious, but I prefer to easily maintain my ideal weight.
-Overbooking myself and arriving everywhere late is familiar to me, but I prefer to be on time or early.
-Having lots of stuff in my house is easy and comforting, but I prefer to be organized.
-Not paying attention to our money is easy, but I prefer to know exactly what is going on with my money at all times.
-Buffering is a blast, but I prefer to be good at feeling my feelings.


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