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Deciding What to Believe

Did you know you can believe anything you want?  The way you believe something is to simply just decide to keep on thinking it.  I did not truly understand this concept until about a year ago. For most of my life I thought it was important to just decide what I believed spiritually and then I had values and things that were important to me.  However, when something would come up that was new for me or I wasn’t sure how I felt about it, I didn’t decide if I wanted to believe in it or not, I just checked in with myself to see if I believed it or not. I had no idea that I could create belief by controlling my thoughts intentionally.  Now that I know the model I can see that I was creating belief without realizing it and I now feel so empowered to believe or stop believing anything I want to. So like I said, a belief is simply a thought (in fact those words are interchangeable) that we decide to spend time thinking about.  Sometimes what we believe feels a little elusive or mysteriou

Unnecessary Survival Mode

I was listening to a podcast from Brooke Castillo and she was talking about not drinking alcohol anymore (which she does not do for moral reasons, just personal preference).  She said she never lied to her brain and said that alcohol was evil and bad and she hated it, she openly acknowledged that drinking is fun, but I prefer not drinking and here's why...  I thought that was a really powerful way for her to put it because we don't need to hate something to stop doing it or beat ourselves up in order to change.  We're also not trying to lie to or trick our lower brain which never goes well. The areas I'm working on are represented by sentences that I practice thinking when my lower brain is resisting this process: -Survival mode can be helpful, but we're not meant to stay there. -Sleeping in is fun, but I prefer to get up early. -Staying in PJ's all day is comfy and easy, but I prefer to be dressed and look my best. -Not wearing makeup is fast and e

16 Reasons Why Deployments are Like Pregnancies

I have found that people who are not in the military struggle to connect and relate with you when you are experiencing a deployment.  They have desire to and it would benefit you as well if they could understand better, but what we go through is a pretty foreign concept to many people.  I have found that explaining concepts of the deployment and drawing on similarities that people experience during pregnancies really helps them understand.  It also helps me accept the hard parts of the deployment as normal and right on track just like I do in a pregnancy.  Enjoy: 1.  When you are pregnant people give you lots of wanted and unwanted advice, just like when you are in a deployment. 2.  When you are pregnant and miserable with morning sickness and/or being super uncomfortable and it all just goes on an on, people struggle with how uncomfortable your whole life is and either avoid you or try and fix it.  The same thing can happen in a deployment when you have to worry about his safety

Sign Up For Resiliency Training!

Click HERE to sign up for Resiliency Training! Thank you for your interest in Resiliency Training! If you are ready to work with me as your life coach, make everything about military life better, and make your mental health a priority, then you are in the right place! For only $100/month you get a private coaching session with me via Zoom, themed weekly content via email, and individual support (email coaching throughout the month). I want you to get exactly the help you need for the right price. Because of this I have made this program affordable and very easy to use when needed and desired. You can join at any point, take a break whenever you're ready, and sign up for the number of months that makes sense for whatever you have going on for you. Whether you have an upcoming PCS, your preparing for a deployment, your struggling during deployment, your reintegration after deployment isn't going well, or anything else, getting some extra help at that challenging time

Ready to take control of your life?

In the beginning of 2018 I was feeling totally overwhelmed with my life. I was preparing for my husband to deploy and worrying about the fact that I would soon be running our circus by myself for a year. I felt out of control and like I had no choices over what was happening to me in my life. That was when I discovered life coaching and Jody Moore ( ). I soon learned how powerful my mind was and how by using Brooke Castillo’s self coaching model I was quickly able to take control of my life and stop feeling like my life was just happening to me and I was responding. The amazing thing was that nothing in my life changed, but everything felt different and better. The power of the self coaching model is understanding the difference between your circumstances and your thoughts. We can spend a lot of time wishing our circumstances were different, when for the most part changing your circumstances isn’t possible. When it is possible, it usually isn’t the best so